Give yourself to others, and your true self will appear

There was an old saying that kept floating into our ear from time to time, “Helping others simply means helping ourselves.” Enacted and reflected by different leaders of different times, the best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. 

There are so many perfect examples of this, bringing hope and healing with every touch. But offering them a name or labelling them is not the right way to acknowledge, and often leads to misinformation. For instance, we admire a certain actor or any celebrity, often losing sight of the wonderment that the persona embodies. The day goes by, and we make a perfect impression of them in our hearts. When negative news about them pops up, our minds don’t cope with it and make up a different narrative to justify it, even though we have never met them and never will. Why does our mind find a new narrative to justify the wrongdoing of someone we admire?

Be Your Own Hero

Never admire anyone in their first instinct or persona they are carrying. Rather, find the answer in others, find the answer in oneself. We know others, but do we truly know who we are? Unfortunately, we don’t know anything about ourselves, and judging others without knowing us is like looking for glasses all over the house, only to find them in our heads. Remember, all the answers are within ourselves; finding them should be the first goal, but how?

Time when you reach home, after doing all the chores or any obligations you have, sit in the dark, close your eyes or not, sit still, and ask the relevant or hard-hitting question to oneself that you haven’t asked yourself, like, “Who am I?” You don’t have to do the same procedure, but different, find your own question or your own answer – your life, your rule, but even go beyond those rules you set, keep moving forward without compromising on anything. 

Later, the more you know about yourself, the more you automatically start to understand others. How fascinating is that? In different phases of time, influencing people who truly make a mark in this world, time after time, purely merged in the service of humankind. The more they are involved in helping others, the more they become the ones you truly consider heroes in their own right.

Next, become ruthless

Find your own power, your own strength, become so ruthless in your approach that you will become delusion, unwavering confidence pumping out of you, but humbleness later. Don’t ever become humble first, never do that, always become so unapologetic and more goal-oriented that, apart from that, don’t matter. Identify yourself with a goal or love of pursuit you have to have. Put the blinker on, don’t do anything unless your task is not accomplished. Create your biggest task into a compartmentalised set of small subtasks, arrayed with little accomplishment after each task. The more you immerse yourself in the task with unwavering dedication, the more you shape an identity you can be proud of, coupled with humility, not first. 

Once the identity is moulded, the character formed – everything around feels like you can accomplish any zenith you have in mind. Such kind of confidence to possess after creating it, once you have it, now help others as many as you can. The more you help or make any kind of contribution, the more directly proportional it is to your character. Find your own zinth, create others too.